亲爱的艾比：妻子退出了她几十年来努力建立的生活。 Dear Abby: Wife withdraws from life she's built over decades.

丈夫的妻子在与他结婚 28 年后离开了他，以“寻找自我”，她声称她并不想离婚，但需要时间和空间来完善自己。 Husband's wife left him after 28 years to "find herself," claiming she doesn't want a divorce but needs time and space to work on herself. 然而，她拒绝与丈夫说话、发短信或联系。 However, she refuses to talk, text or contact her husband. 丈夫“孤独的东方”问道，在没有联系的情况下，他和妻子该如何经营婚姻。 The husband, "Lonely in the East," asks how he and his wife can work on their marriage with no contact. 艾比建议妻子不能两全其美，而且她似乎也不愿意修复婚姻。 Abby advises that the wife cannot have it both ways, nor does she seem open to repairing the marriage. 她建议询问妻子是否有兴趣接受咨询，如果没有，请转介给治疗师以获得丈夫的情感支持。 She suggests asking the wife if she is interested in counseling and, if not, getting a referral to a therapist for the husband's emotional support.